3 ACTIONABLE strategies to build rewarding relationships (recommend)
Each of us lives in a big world, with thousands of interaction and connection increasing more and more every day. That results in thousands relationships, ranging from most intimated one to complicated and somehow conflicted one.
We all want that special 'someone' who's going to love us unconditionally, honor us and accept us for just being who we are.
Unfortunately though, if we've had more than our fair share of bad relationships through our lifetime, then it can become easy to suspect there’s no right person, just many different alternative of wrong.
#1 Pour out the effort and set priority
Not every one of us attain high EQ score, or in another words, expert in understanding other’s emotion. Unfortunately, people who are great at inventing things, and have high creativity, yet often don't have strong interpersonal skills or interests.
I strongly believe the talent to effectively build relationships can be learned, just like any other skill, even if you are an introvert like me
It does take effort and focus, just like learning other skills that you need to achieve objectives you have set.
No one want to be in a relationships that always highly stressed, long-term conflicted and energy-deprived. Relationship means to give us happiness, love and energy
The first thing you should know is relationship take times and not a one-way half-hearted effort.
Offer and deliver help, support and advice, connect every one with each other, make real value of them. Only then will you feel satisfaction and find others willing to respond when you need help.
Second, don’t think quantity is better than quality
Always pour a great deal of time for superior relationship
Family always the top priority, then your favorite relatives, best friends and mentors. Those are people who understand you the best and vice versa, plus these relationships are the most important of each person in life.
And finally, regularly identify new relationships that are vital to the future of your life importance, and define strategies to build these connections follow the previous steps.
2. Deal with the inevitable challenges that often arise in relationships
To make a relationship last, having good communication skills is so important. One of the biggest no-nos? Not being an active and thoughtful listener in your relationship.
"The most common relationship problem I've seen is one person responding to what someone else has just said without first checking to see if they understood what the other person was saying, or was trying to say," psychotherapist and author Jeffrey Von Glahn, PhD.
If the case is you knowing it clearly, you still need to let them express their feelings and thoughts. By this way they feel being understood and sympathized.
And how about you react to this? Well, when they’re expressing problem to them, they either need your comfort, encouragement or need you take a step in and help them to solve it.
- I cannot totally instruct you which one is your situation and what type of action you must do. That’s how the conversation raises.
- Talking and questioning, until you fully understand their stories, how they get stuck here and what can we offer for them.
- Don’t be afraid that you are not an expert in their problem, there will be a solution for a problem, there will be a chance for you.
3. Know how to build stronger and more vibrant relationships.
To build a stronger relationships, first and for most, look at your own relationship needs. Do you know what you need from others? And do you know what they need from you?
Each stage of a relationship will require effort and stakeholders to focus on, and the question is how can you invest for the right “stock” and get the interest from it.
For a newly established relationships, my general advice is you should Show your appreciation whenever someone helps you. Everyone, from your boss to the office cleaner, wants to feel that their work is appreciated.
So, genuinely compliment the people around you when they do something well. This will open the door to great work relationships.
Secondly, Practice active listening when you talk to your friends and colleagues. People respond to those who truly listen to what they have to say. Focus on listening more than you talk, and you'll quickly become known as someone who can be trusted.
Gradually, a relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.
I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.
Talk about the things that truly matter to you:
- beliefs, religion practices
- hobbies, like how you actually do it
- career and development
If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.
Please leave a comment and let me know your favorite strategy.
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