2 TRUTHFUL BELIEFS when I tell you that I love you
The things you regret are the things you did not do - Michael Curtiz
Hearing a partner say "I love you" for the first time is regarded as one of the unique gift of a romantic relationship.
However, people are often uncertain about when to declare their love, and whether to be the first to do so or to wait until the other has given an indication that they feel the same way. They usually wonder:
- Does the timing make any difference, or all the difference?
- How do I say it, precisely?
You don't have to have a ring on your finger to say, 'I love you' - Tyra Banks
Back to the core, romantic love expresses our genuine attitudes.
Revealing my loving heart to a partner is immeasurably valuable for communication and personal flourishing. However, such self-disclosure makes me more vulnerable and may put him in an uncomfortable situation, especially if his attitude is different from mine.
People usually think it’s all about timing to say that I love you. What's important in long-term love is not TIMING, which refers to a specific temporal point, but TIME.
#1 Time has a wider reference, including duration, frequency, and development. Accordingly, a few apparent mistakes along the road, stemming from bad timing or political incorrectness, will not change an entire romantic picture. It may even enhance trust and honesty between lovers.
Since profound love needs time to develop, it isn't reasonable to say "I love you profoundly" after being together for just a brief time; that may indicate that I am not serious about what is in fact a serious matter.
#2 It is activities, rather than words, that count most. There may be many reasons for not saying "I love you" that are not necessarily because of a lack of love. In addition, it is not part of romantic etiquette to tell him that I love you just because he has declared love for me.
Also, it will be better when you tell someone your love, you should enclose it with a small gift with real care, or a surprised party, or a meaningful occasion, so that he know you are truthfully and commit to what you are saying.
Last but not least, I don’t want to hide my love just because my partner is not (yet) as in love with me as I am to him. I’m always honest and open about my attitude and give him the time he needs for feelings toward me to develop into profound love. The development might be gradual. Never wait since love sometimes require sacrifices.
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